Friday, 21 August 2015

My new public diary

Right now I am trying to juggle studying, homeschooling, volunteering, being the perfect wife and homemaker and my really crappy health. No better time to start blogging again right?

One by one all the ladies I knew who used to blog have stopped so I doubt anyone really reads this anymore.

It can be like a public diary.

This year has been really, really tough.

Like really tough.

From the beginning of the year my health started to fail in a big way. Alhamdulillah I have medical aid or I do not even want to think what would have happened. The public health system in South Africa is not exactly somewhere that anyone wants to end up. Heck the private hospitals that I ended up in is not exactly where anyone wants to end up.

Day by day I get a bit better and a bit stronger. I have come a long way since then but I will most likely live with a few of the chronic conditions forever. I am grateful for my husband and a couple of the friends I have made that have got me through.

Can you believe my little boy is four tomorrow! How the years have flown by. He is the absolute sunshine in my life. I thank Allah for him with every breath I have. He loves baking, colouring, reading, trucks, the Gruffalo and annoying his older sister.

His older sister is rather a copy of me. People often stop us in public to tell us how similar we look. She is also remarkably like me in personality. Sarcastic, funny and always the activist. She is big into skateboarding, reading and art.

We moved to a 'Muslim' community at the start of the year. To say I do not fit in is an understatement. A massive understatement. I just found the Sufi community further out and although I have to drive a heck of a lot to get to anything it is worth it.

Nearly five years since I first met my husband and we are still together. Our marriage like any other is far from perfect but we have been through so many storms together and here we still are. Make dua'a that Allah grants us a long and beautiful marriage.

This wasn't much of a come back post hey. My energy fades fast in the afternoon and I still have a ton of housework plus dinner to cook plus a lot of studying and then a halaqah tonight to drag the kids and husband to.

My life is thrilling right ;)

Promise I will write something more substantial soon. Maybe about how I managed to lose 50 kilos, or Xenophobia in South Africa or why my kids do not have a TV. I'll figure it out.


  1. Assalamu alaikum dear Bonnie,
    I know it's been about a million years😉.
    Don't know if you even remember me, I was the French revert who got married and moved to the Uk.
    Here I am a couple of years later, still reading blogs here and there, but I guess I'm just too busy living life to find time to write about it lol.
    I'm really happy that everything got sorted for you regarding marriage life. Just like you I've had ups and downs in my marriage but Alhamdulillah for everything😊.
    I'm really sorry to hear that you have had ongoing health problems. May Allah swt give you shifa. Ameen.
    I've also had chronic health problems since I've had 3 more kids in a year (1 boy then twin girls the next year) which has been a bit hard on my body but again Alhamdulillah for everything.
    Just wanted to let you know that I think about you now and again, as well as about all the other ladies who used to blog or still blog and don't think I could have made it through the hardship without all of your support.
    Wish you the best. Loads of kisses to your adorable kids😘

    1. Walikum salam sweetheart
      I am so happy to hear from you! And so happy your life has blossomed into something so amazing. Ma'ashallah! How does your son like being a big brother? You have led one exciting life hey, if not a blog than write a book about your life experiences! xx

  2. Always thinking about you sis.
    May Allah reward you and the family, and I know that your health situation hasn't been easy, may he ease your pain and suffering.

    1. I keep trying to reply to you and it keeps deleting. Lucky try five thousand! I know you have kept in touch with K and I feel terrible now thinking we haven't spoken now for a year and a half. Really shocking :(

  3. How nice to read you Bonnie (hope you got my last email for you sweet little one birthday!)
    I missed you but you know this.
    You went through so much my dear and you are there. It's good to know life and its ups and down have not stopped you from living and being happy and doing things, beautiful things.
    Thinking of you.